Can you turn a he-hoe into a house husband? Lol

I have just a couple of thoughts.

I’m part of a group of SINGLE, college educated professional women who, at the very least on the surface, are pretty cool chicks. I don’t know how others behave when in relationships but they’re cool with me and I think that says a lot lol. Assuming they’re like me, they are having a very hard time finding someone to seriously date.

Now this isn’t going to turn into a why are my friends and I so great yet single piece. I just had some ideas pop into my head that I thought I’d throw out there to wolves and see what others think.

1. Are dudes who are man whores worthy of trying out?? Or is a man whore always a man whore?

I ask this because of something I put on tweeted today.

I typed “Its funny when u mention the name of a guy & every girl in the room makes that face lol he's either not a good person or has ran thru 2 many.”

Now I know a lot of dudes who know a lot of females, A LOT of females and I don’t tend to look at them as someone date-able because they’ve been around the block more than a couple of times. Is that a dating pool that shouldn’t be ignored?? Can a man whore ever redeem himself and become husband material?? Can you turn a he-hoe into a house husband? Lol

2. Letting God lead your search

I’m not talking about having spiritual requirements but leaving your search in God’s hands so to speak, so you do nothing to help aid in your search for a mate. If that’s your method, or non-method, can you complain about not having someone?? Do you think you need to put yourself in situations where you can find your mate? Or will he bring you your mate without any nudge from you at all?

And if you do an active search and not acknowledge God in your search isn’t he really aiding in your search anyway??

So is it best to have it both ways? Actively put out the vibes that you want a boo and let God do his side of it?

What if you’re not ready for a boo but you don’t know that but he knows that and he’s keeping you single til you’re ready. Will you appreciate you boo that much more because you were "ready?"

What if you're like me and don't want to be old as hell getting married and it be too late to have babies. Woops did I just publish a fear? Yep lol

Relationships, Cheaters, Becoming Jaded and all that jazz

Within the last two years or so I've met or been approached by more dudes who are in relationships than I have in my whole adult dating life and I think I'm becoming jaded out relationships.

And for the record I know chicks cheat just as much as dudes but I'm a chick who doesn't and this is what I'm dealing with.

I know ninjas have been cheating since the beginning of time but I mean I at least thought there were SOME out there that don't. But the more I meet guys and most are in relationships of some sort (even married) the more I see how willing they are to get at me regardless of who they have at home. Some have talked about how much they love their wife or girl and are happy in that situation but just want to "get to know me" aka get in my bed.

Why?

Why can't they just acknowledge an attraction to someone and not act on it? Is it really something in males that make them want to pro-create with any chick they find suitable?

Is this social construct of marriage really whats not natural and something that should not be looked forward to if you wish to have a fully committed partner?

If you decide to get married should you be ok with a certain level of adultery?

What do you consider cheating in the first place? Inappropriate talks? Secret friends of the opposite sex? Inappropriate thoughts of someone other than the person you're with?

I think some things are excusable, we're human, we have brains, we have hormones.

Maybe the animal in us is closer than we think?? Maybe commitment is the issue and not the men......

What do you think?

My Wish List

I wish I had a career that would open doors to bigger and better things, instead of a job with not even a window

I wish I had a man who didn't care what the number on the scale is, but cared that I looked my best for him

I wish I had more money so I could move out instead of making chump change forcing me to live here

I wish I had something to eat so my stomach would stop rumbling! lol

I wish I was planning my marriage with him

I wish I wasn't pushing 30 and not have anything going right in my life